Okay, I'm gonna be jerk of the week to you again in a second and I guess I apologize for that but apparently being jerk of the week is just what I'm good at here.
But it sounds to me like no matter what anyone here tells you, you're going to keep beating yourself over it because nothing we say can make you decide to not feel guilty about what happened. You're the only one that can decide that and if you're not ready to hear advice right now you're going to keep finding reasons to feel guilty, you know? So it's not like there's anything any of us can do about it outside of maybe listen to you and let you vent a little.
If you want to do that then I guess that's fine and I guess I actually apologize and not just vague-apologize because I'm kind of used to working out everyone's problems and how they probably should have gone about fixing them so that's what I default to. And I'm not too great at reading social cues and no tone over text and a million other excuses and stuff that don't really make it any better.
Sorry you're going through a hard time, though, seems a lot of people are beating themselves up over stuff lately. The fact that you actually feel bad about stuff that happened is a good sign, for what it's worth, because no matter what you did a truly shitty person wouldn't bother feeling bad about it.
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But it sounds to me like no matter what anyone here tells you, you're going to keep beating yourself over it because nothing we say can make you decide to not feel guilty about what happened. You're the only one that can decide that and if you're not ready to hear advice right now you're going to keep finding reasons to feel guilty, you know? So it's not like there's anything any of us can do about it outside of maybe listen to you and let you vent a little.
If you want to do that then I guess that's fine and I guess I actually apologize and not just vague-apologize because I'm kind of used to working out everyone's problems and how they probably should have gone about fixing them so that's what I default to. And I'm not too great at reading social cues and no tone over text and a million other excuses and stuff that don't really make it any better.
Sorry you're going through a hard time, though, seems a lot of people are beating themselves up over stuff lately. The fact that you actually feel bad about stuff that happened is a good sign, for what it's worth, because no matter what you did a truly shitty person wouldn't bother feeling bad about it.