I can understand the difficulty with talking about people who have disappeared, but have you given them the opportunity to talk about it at least? I know the differences in communication would be a problem, but... even if they don't want to talk, I'm sure they'd appreciate the thought, at least.
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I know the differences in communication would be a problem, but... even if they don't want to talk, I'm sure they'd appreciate the thought, at least.