Thirteenth Flake [Text]

[defyingfrigidity]

[Normally, Elsa doesn't care for making text posts. Video helps her be more open people, and even after over a year here, she could always use more help with that! But there are still rare occasions where she just... doesn't trust her emotions to stay under control. So text it is for those days.]

For those of you who have been here for quite a while now:
Is there... any good way to cope with people from other worlds leaving?
I know that, when people from your own world leave, you can be comforted in the fact that you'll see them again when you return home.

But... what about those from other worlds?
They're gone, and unless you remain here for long enough that you return, you'll never see them again.
And if they're important to you, just as much as the people from your own world...

How can you get over the disappearance of someone like that?

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[exeggutorhead]

There's not much you can do but remember. Do things that remind you of them, and be happy you've got those memories.

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[defyingfrigidity]

But what if doing things that remind you of them hurts?

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[codeforhope]

[See, that first thing works when you know you'll see them again when you return home. But, well...some people aren't so lucky.]

I don't really think you have to "get over it", so much as you...you come to terms with it, after a while. The memories you make with them while they are here are irreplaceable. That's something that nobody can ever take from you.

But...I also try not to think about it like I'll never see them again. It isn't very likely in a lot of cases, yes...but if living here has taught me anything, it's that nothing is truly impossible.

You really just have to remember the times when they were here...and remember them fondly. I know that if I ever went home, I would want the people I knew to do the same.

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[defyingfrigidity]

I'm trying. It's been a few days, and I've tried to keep positive, but...

[But when you have feelings for the person that disappeared, and you never told them about it, looking back on those memories, those times that fueled those feelings...]

It's so difficult. And I don't want those memories to go from ones that make me happy to ones that are just... sad, now.

[doitrockapella]

Usually, I try to consider the notion that, if it was possible to find my way into this world, then theoretically speaking it should be equally possible to find my way into others.

I'm not sure if that's necessarily a good way of coping. But I find comfort in the thought that it's not inherently impossible for me to find them and see them again someday, if that's what I choose to set my mind to.

[defyingfrigidity]

That... actually is quite a nice idea, isn't it?
From what I've heard, her world would be quite an adventure to explore.

But... in all the years that some of us have been here, we haven't been able to find out what exactly it is that brings us here. How can we harness that ability for our own if we're still in the dark about it?

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[paladinlost]

...You can make new friends. Find a new hobby. Seek out a new Pokémon to train. Anything that can distract you from the pain, until it slowly dulls. If that does not suffice, you can always remind yourself that you are now connected with that person even if you might someday both forget why.

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If it makes you feel better, I once managed to meet friends from other worlds again after nearly twenty years. 'Never' is far from a certainty.

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[defyingfrigidity]

I do have friends now. Though one of them is from the world of my friend who disappeared... so talking to her is a little awkward right now.

But is travel between worlds common where you come from?

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[solas_ion]

Not really. [Lancer shrugged, leaning his head on his hand.]

You get used to it after a while, kinda like getting a papercut in the same place over and over until it's just like 'oh, it's this shit again'. Hurts, but you know what to expect from it.

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[defyingfrigidity]

[yikes...]

That sounds awful.
Even if you compare it to just a paper cut, pain is still pain.
How is that easy to deal with?

[THEN AGAIN ELSA'S HANDS ARE VERY SENSITIVE SO PAPER CUTS HURT MORE THAN NORMAL.... probably a bad comparison there...]

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[pipers_son]

[Even now, this is still too sensitive material for Joker. He flicks on anon, and then makes sure it really is anon with his Pokemon. His reply is slowly and carefully typed out.]

You don't. You carry around the loss like a scar engraved in your skin, waiting for it to stop bleeding. If one of your Pokemon is particularly smart and not hurting, you can get them to organize things: keep material memories close or hidden away as you need them to be. Drown yourself in something, whether spirits or travel or people. If you're lucky, the wound closes up, but you never forget. That's loss for you.

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[defyingfrigidity]

[Honestly... this comment helps more than it hurts. It's good to know that there are more people out there who struggle with that sort of thing, instead of focusing purely on moving on.]

That's... hm. Ominous isn't exactly the right word.
But all my life in my world, luck was never on my side.
So I suppose I should prepare myself for this, now.

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[baremyfangs]

Treat it like a loss. You mourn and then you gotta find a way to move on.

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[defyingfrigidity]

But how?
I...
I've never been able to figure out how to deal with loss.
Aside from bearing the pain of it until it goes numb.

But I know now that that's not exactly a good coping method.

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[tearsofademon]

From my experience, you just hope they're happy back home and keep moving forward. It's a little easier if they left you a Pokemon, honestly, but otherwise, if you've got some kind of proof they existed, then you can at least remember them.

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[defyingfrigidity]

Oh, of course I'll hope she's safe and happy!
Honestly, I think she's much happier back home, now.

[Asami had seemed pretty homesick lately, so... maybe it's for the better.]

I...
No, I don't have anything of hers, actually.
Except memories, of course.

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[loveisanopendoor]

Well first of all I'm sure they wouldn't want you to stay all cooped up over it so you should come out and play first so we can talk about it for real, texting feels weird when I'm two inches from your room (๑ᴖ◡ᴖ๑)

That said though........I don't think there's such a thing as an actual, legitimate, always-and-forever "goodbye," you know? Thinking about memories you have in terms of, like, "I'm never gonna see this person again so now all the time I ever spent with them doesn't mean anything now and it's just gonna make me sad if I think about them" is kind of an easy habit to fall into but it's definitely not good for you no matter how you slice it. It's all about your outlook.

The fact that someone you care about is gone, someone really important....yeah, of course it's gonna hurt, especially if it just sort of happened and you didn't get a chance to give a proper goodbye and all. But that doesn't mean you're never gonna see them again, I mean, look where we are, y'know?? If it's meant to be, it's meant to be, for sure. Things have a way of working out, or they will at some point, if you want them to. In a place like this especially, anything's possible, right? ♥

So I guess what I'm trying to say is like you don't really "get over" anything?? You remember all the wonderful time you spent with them and the way you felt when they were with you, and you hold onto it, and you bide your time and hold out hope. If you block it out or you keep it locked away, nothing good's gonna come of it, you know that!!!!

Most importantly as hard as it is to deal with you don't have to put the whole burden on yourself. You don't have to do anything alone and that includes being sad over someone important to you going away! You have people here for you and lots of love waiting literally just outside your door if you open it like right now I mean I have chocolate and everything just saying (◍•ᴗ•◍)

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[defyingfrigidity]

[Anna doesn't get a response to that text. Well, not a text response, that is. Instead, she'll get Elsa opening her door, looking very tired - and possibly recovering from crying, if the slight redness in her eyes is anything to go by - but attempting a half-hearted smile anyway.]

I don't lock my door anymore, Anna. You know that. If you wanted to lecture me, you can do it to my face now.

[She tries to sound amused, but... it's not really working right now.]

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[usedglaciate]

I think the only thing to do is remember them, while you keep moving forward.

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[defyingfrigidity]

I know, but...
It hurts.

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[in4apounding]

Oh no, did you lose someone?

I'm so sorry, Miss Elsa.

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[defyingfrigidity]

I did, yes. Her name was Asami Sato.

It's... it's okay. I know that she's back in her world, and honestly, I think that's what she's been wanting for a long time now. So I can be happy for her, at least.

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[foolishwren]

<sub>[Heather doesn't often weigh in on 'disappearance posts' these days. What is there to say that hasn't already been said so many times over? And she knows better than most that half the time, advice and platitudes just breed resentment even when they're true. Loss fucking sucks.]

[But hell, it's been on her mind lately.]</sub>

It's never easy or painless, and you never really 'get over' it.

It'll always be there and there'll be times when you think you've moved on and something small and stupid will catch your attention and send you right back to how you felt right after it happened.

But it does get easier.

The more time passes, the more you'll be able to start getting the happiness out of those memories instead of just the sadness. It'll still hurt but it'll be easier.





I'm sorry you lost somebody.

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[defyingfrigidity]

That seems to be the general idea of what everyone's saying.
And I know everyone experiences these things differently, but...
I wish I knew how long it will be until things get better.

... The person who disappeared was Asami Sato. Did you know her, by any chance?

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[paopuprincess]

It never really gets easier. Just gotta hope you see them again.

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[defyingfrigidity]

Does it happen often?
Friends from other worlds remembering each other and reuniting here?